Building a Mystery

Thursdays are our half-day. I am up early for my 5:30 workout class, so I get straight to work when I get home at 6:30 after I get the coffee going. The Mayor usually rouses by 7 or 7:30 and joins me with his laptop. This past Thursday, we worked until 12:30 and then The Mayor and I took off on Mystery Date #2 to parts unknown to me. 

In anticipation, I put on my new flowy black pants that I got on clearance at Meijer, a knit top, and my custom Chuck Taylor’s, so I felt hip and cute for once. I could tell The Mayor is getting familiar with the area because we headed east on 96 and he didn’t need directions until 45 minutes into our trip. Our first stop on the mystery date? The Mayor was treating me to a shopping spree at Unwind Yarn Shop in Brighton, just outside of Ann Arbor. I went in and fingered all of the fibers, as I love to do, and hemmed and hawed over what I would be bringing home. Not wanting to go overboard, I picked a bundle of 20 mini-hanks in various blues and greens that I have dreams of making granny square sleeves with on an upcycled hoodie. I reluctantly put back a gorgeous sparkly teal skein that I couldn’t justify spending the $37 on without a project in mind.

We then braved three double roundabouts in a row (We went from one roundabout directly into another and then another. It was wild and we hope to never do it again!) on our way to OC Sportscards so The Mayor could get some time in his happy place searching for cards. I parked myself on the “girlfriend couch” in the front of the store with Wheel of Fortune on the tv so he could pick in peace and I could text my friends in The Hookup about my mystery date. I couldn’t stop thinking about that sparkly teal and I wrestled with my fiscal prudence versus my letting go and letting myself be spoiled. Suddenly I got an email from State Farm letting me know that I was the recipient of a dividend totalling 5 times the amount of the sparkly teal that I passed on. A sign from the Universe? I immediately thought I would ask to return to Unwind to buy that skein, but little did I know he had a whole other yarn shop next on the list.

We battled parents and students in downtown Ann Arbor since it was dropoff week for University of Michigan and found Spun yarn shop. We put 30 minutes on the meter and went into the galleria of shops to check out their offerings. The Mayor was thrilled to find a vintage media store below Spun, so he went downstairs while I searched the yarn store. I found a funky green that I am going to make into a hat for Doodle at some point. I also found a purple sparkly skein that I am going to make into a hat for myself to replace the sparkly teal that I passed on at Unwind. I was super pleased with my purchases and also stoked that I came out net positive after my dividend rebate. When I rendez-voused with The Mayor in the media shop, he found a dvd that he wanted. As he checked out, the clerk told him if he gave her his phone number to become a rewards member, he could get another free dvd. So Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and Joe Dirt came home with us, we pulled out of our parking spot at the exact minute our meter expired, and we tallied up another wink from the universe. 

We ended our Mystery Date #2 at Metzgers German restaurant, where The Mayor finally got his schnitzel that he had been missing from Schmidt’s and I was adventurous and tried the new-to-me sauerbraten with a side of mashed potatoes and mid-Michigan sweet corn that I had been dying to try. Everything was absolutely amazing, with flavors so rich I could only eat half. The corn surpassed expectations and was as delightful as the locals brag.

Mystery Date #2 did not have the deep emotions of our first mystery date, but that is a good thing. Instead, I learned that it’s okay to let go a bit and allow myself to be spoiled. No, not spoiled, treated. The universe will take care of me. And right now the universe is manifesting as The Mayor, who takes care of my every need and anticipates my wants that I don’t even know I want. The Mayor has unlocked the mystery of Destiny, and I’m not even mad about it.

Moments with The Mayor

The late morning August sun shines through the windshield so bright even the visor and their sunglasses do little to help the glare. He accelerates on the on-ramp of the highway, and he speaks clearly and directly, “Siri, directions to Jeffrey’s Antique Gallery in Findlay, Ohio…”

Actual picture taken by the author.

“Okay. Here are directions to Jeff’s Flooring Warehouse in Scottsdale, Arizona.”

They look at each other and start cracking up and he says, “Jesus fucking Christ, Siri, it’s way too early to be drinking.”

“I’ll type it in,” she offers from the passenger seat as he merges across the highway into the left lane to pass one of the many truckers on the road. She pulls up the directions and they appear on the Apple Carplay screen in the dash. He reaches cruising speed and sets the cruise control at 72. 

She has taken the day off work and he is taking her out of town to get a change of scenery from her home office that she has been confined to for the past two weeks. It is a blessing and a curse working from home. While she has the flexibility to take off when she needs to, being a contract worker means no vacation days—if she doesn’t work she doesn’t get paid. So she puts in long hours, often logging time on the evenings and weekends. This is her first full day off in over a fortnight.

They talk about what he plans to make for dinner and how they really need to start on painting the cabinets in the kitchen if they are going to sell in the spring. Since his job ended two years ago he has become a full-time homemaker—a domestic engineer, as she liked to put it—and if they could grant degrees he would certainly have a Ph.D. He has become so adept in the kitchen that she looks forward to what’s for dinner from the moment she wakes up in the morning. He used to turn to Food Network for inspiration, but lately he has been thinking of old recipes and how to jazz them up in his own way. Tonight he is taking a favorite recipe for a local restaurant’s shepherd’s pie and adding edamame and sundried tomatoes to the lamb and traditional veggies. She knows it will be killer—he rarely disappoints.

She catches him drumming along with his thumbs to Hall and Oates and smiles, singing along as she looks at the familiar scenery along 75. He is handsome, not in your typical Chris Hemsworth way, then again who is, but in an inviting and comforting way. More than his outward appearance, he has a gentle, caring nature that makes her heart gallop. He always knows how to take care of her, when to refill her water cup, when she needs physical touch, when she needs to be left alone, and when she needs to just let go and laugh. He is her rock and she could not be more grateful.

“So, what are your thoughts on just staying partners versus getting married?” she suddenly says, surprising herself with her abruptness as they pass Troy. “Are we gonna be like Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn and just never tie the knot? Or do you feel a strong desire to make it official?” She had always assumed they were on the same page, but they never discussed it in their hopes and dreams for their future together. She herself waffled back and forth between the romanticism of getting married, but she was also practical and knew there were financial consequences to taking the plunge. She loved looking at wedding dresses and engagement rings, but the idea of getting married again terrified her. 

He takes a beat and replies, “I mean, I feel like we already are life partners like Kurt and Goldie. A marriage certificate won’t change how I feel about you. If it makes sense for us to get married, then I’m game, but otherwise I say why mess with a good thing? If we decide we want to in the future, it’ll be on a whim by Elvis in Vegas or something like that,” and he laughs, casting a sideways glance at her to gauge her reaction.

She is relieved by his response and tells him that. They have eleven years under their belt, she can’t imagine herself with anyone else and a ring didn’t mean as much as his steadfast strength and compassionate shoulder as he stood by her during one of her darkest hours last winter. He would always take care of her, and in turn, she would always provide for him. She had come to realize how deep her love for him really was, and she felt his devotion and affection on a daily basis. 

Siri’s voice suddenly pipes up and notifies them of their exit in 10 miles. The trip has flown by, their easy conversations punctuating the comfortable silence as the western Ohio scenery passes by. They have some backroads after they exit and she looks out at the houses and churches in the little town by the antique mall. In a clearing, she sees a small graveyard and two solitary headstones right next to each other. The engravings are faded, but one of them has words that form the shape of a smile and it is tilted to the right, barely touching the headstone next to it. It is as if it is pressing its forehead to the marker next to it and even in the afterlife the two can’t be separated. She immediately gets the warm fuzzies and points it out to him.

“Look, it’s you and me! You must’ve said something in the afterlife that made me smile and want to always be near you…” Can you pull over? I want to take a picture. Such detours were not uncommon. They did a u-turn for a cheese castle during a recent trip to Wisconsin, he could take a break for a snapshot of something she found inspiring.

She gets the picture she wanted, is pleased with herself, and is already mulling the story she will write about it one day when she has more free time. They pull up to the antique mall, take a sip from their water bottles, and head in. He opens the door for her, following behind her, then takes her hand as they walk the aisles. She leans her head on his shoulder for a brief moment. Thinking back to the gravestones, she is thankful that she has a lifetime of tender moments and fun adventures to look forward to with him. But for right now, she is happy he is by her side exploring this tiny part of the universe, keeping her grounded and her heart full. 

Ugh. Seriously??

Living close to the ground

Is seventh Heaven ’cause there are angels all around

Among my frivolous thoughts

I believe there are beautiful things seen by the astronauts

Wake me if you’re out there.

–Owl City

So here’s the thing about being a blogger like me…one who opens her heart and discloses the inner goings-on of her mind and soul…there’s a lot of risk involved, but I think it creates a more transparent and honest experience for my readers. Unfortunately, at times I can also get burned when shitty things happen. And I could choose to ignore them—to sweep things under the rug as if they never happened—or I could address them and then move on. Continue reading